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Kay xx

I read something yesterday that I thought encapsulated something I already knew very well. It was written by a life coach and author called Cheryl Richardson, I've seen her interviewed before and really liked her, not too full on and very beautiful to look at (never trust a scruffy life coach!). She said: "You can't live an authentic, soul-directed life without disappointing people, hurting their feelings, or making them angry. That's the truth."

Seems a little more negative than the things I usually hold with or discuss on here, but actually I think she makes a really good point. I believe that everyone here has their own path to follow, and if that is the case then everyone is only responsible for themselves and their own journey on that path. I accept that we have some responsibilities to others - we are responsible for taking care of our dependents like children and also pets, we choose to have them so we must look after them while they cannot do for themselves. But I don't believe we are responsible for the feelings of other people. (Many people believe that we are responsible for them, and that's where we run into trouble.)

Years ago I was involved with a guy who believed that it was impossible to cause feelings in another person, everyone's emotional state was their own responsibility and nothing to do with him at all. And therefore it was acceptable for him to do whatever he wanted, tell me about it, and accept no responsibility for how it made me (and presumably the other women) feel. That's not really where I'm going with this. There is always room for kindness when walking your own path, and not taking responsibility or ownership for the feelings of others is not about having license to do things that you know will hurt other people, just because you can.

But even if you go about life with the intention to be kind and compassionate to people, if you are going to hold true to the path that you are walking, to your true self, to the need to make yourself happy, somewhere along the line someone is going to be unhappy about that. As we go through life we take on a particular role for certain people, and when we make changes to our lives for our own development and our own higher good, more often than not we no longer comfortably occupy that role.

When I gave up a self destructive lifestyle and many people that came along with it, plenty of people had something to say about it. Because not wanting to listen to bitching makes me judgemental or stuck up. Not wanting to get really drunk all the time, have no real control of what I'm doing and not remembering how I got home, that makes me uptight. Not continuing to spend time with someone whose behaviour is destructive and out of control, or agreeing to be there whenever the phone rings to listen to how awful everything is (because they think I owe it to them as we used to do this stuff together) makes me a bad friend. Not wanting to join in on the conversations about how terrible men are, how bad the bosses treat us, what's wrong with the world etc etc means I can't have a simple conversation anymore. Quite often I have found that people who are miserable don't want to have a conversation with someone who is positive and sees a different perspective, they want someone to fall into line and maintain the status quo of 'life sucks, but at least we can get trashed and have a laugh'. When I decided not to go out and get drunk anymore (and realised that when I was sober I didn't really like the behaviour of the people I had been spending time with!) many people went on the defensive, tried to convince me to do things I didn't want to, told me my behaviour was stupid, it was a phase, etc. Because when you leave a way of life behind, even though that is a personal choice and not a statement that everyone else should follow you, those who continue it feel that they are being judged or condemned. It's strange that making a personal decision can make other people angry even when it is none of their business, but it's definitely true. I hear from students and colleagues about this all time time, that people around them are not responding well to their new lifestyles, it is leaving them healthy, happy, positive, they no longer want to do the same things, and this does not sit comfortably with a lot of people.

One of my new year's resolutions is to keep myself removed from other people's dramas because the other side of this coin is that, as well as taking responsibility for my own path and happiness above all things, I have to allow everyone else to take responsibility for theirs. I've been doing well at this for a while but certain people (hello family...) are still challenging to me! I can work hard and reach a place of joy and peace, and then a single conversation can bring me down ('oh sorry, I didn't mean to bring you down by involving you in this' etc). This is something that I hope to achieve full immunity from in the future! For now I refuse to engage in things if they are not pleasing to me, and if there are any feelings raised in me during the conversation, I will pay attention to that, and its message, and do self healing work of course.

People's response to my refusal to engage in their drama is interesting. I don't want to focus my attention and energy on something that is not pleasing to me, and therefore when I am hearing the same complaints from people (ever notice how the problems of an individual are so often the same? Different partner or job or location, yet the conversation is the same...) I choose not to focus on them. To do so would take me into a state of mind and a feeling that is worse than the one I have cultivated for myself (in Law of Attraction speak it would move my vibration away from resonance with my true self). That wouldn't help the other person, it would only harm me. But in not engaging, the other person will not get the energy they require from me. So they are disappointed or annoyed.

Currently someone very close to me is embarking on an extra marital affair, and for reasons not completely known seems to be trying to make me complicit in what they are doing. The problem is, I am close to both parties so have no wish to know about this! The person in question seems to be seeking a few things from me. The first is judgement 'I know you don't approve do you, I am a bad person aren't I?' - obviously this person thinks they are in the wrong, and so I should, what, berate them? I said it is not for me to say what is wrong or right, I'm not here to tell anyone they are a bad person. Secondly, they want someone to be excited with, so they can have school girl-esque 'how naughty, tell me all the details' conversations, as the excitement is presumably part of the reason for doing it. I did not get excited, just said 'well it's up to you what you do'. Both of these reactions seem not to have been well received. And of course, thirdly, this person requires a confidante because they are having a bad time in their relationship and are presumably wrestling with what they should do next and the moral implications of what they are doing at the moment. This last one is difficult because of course I understand the need to have someone to talk to. The issue is that talking about it makes me feel uncomfortable because as I say I know both parties in the relationship really well. So, what to do?

As always it is the way I feel that has the answer. If something does not make me feel good, then I am out of balance, moving away from my path and the pursuit of my happiness. Therefore: no confidante. This is doubtless going to hurt the person's feelings as they have good reason to expect loyalty from me. But my biggest loyalty is to myself, and that's the one I am going to honour.

Well, after praising 2008 to high heavens the other day, perhaps I should turn my attention to what plans I have for 2009....in other words, how will I top that? In terms of my work, things are reasonably concrete - the courses, the retreats, the goals I've set. But that's not really the stuff of these new year's resolutions everyone's been talking about - those are usually more about the personal life. So here is what I would like to achieve personally in 2009:

- I wish to approach the world from a place of compassion, something I am not always able to do.
- I want to have no financial worries at all, and want to be able to contribute the amount I want to the running of my home.
- I want to do really well at university this year.
- I wish to have a greater understanding of inner peace and mindfulness.
- I have specific magickal & spiritual goals that I want to reach this year. I can't write them down, but I want to achieve them!
- I want to complete one of my books this year.
- I want to tone up and get fit before I'm 30. Not least because I will be in Florida in a bikini on my 30th!
- I feel the need to get back to my roots and do more regular psychic work this year.
- I anticipate having magnificent outfits and hair all year :-)
- I intend to do my Karuna Master qualification this year.
- I wish to be disciplined and organised.
- I will be grateful for everything I have and remember to deliberately move my thoughts more and more towards the positive.
- I will take time off, and enjoy it!
- I will travel to new places.
- I'll do more yoga. Or possibly take up tai chi.
- I will avoid people's drama. Getting caught up in other people's drama used to be something I fell into a lot, but I will no longer allow the peace of my wonderful life to be disrupted by what other people create.
- I will eat well, and enjoy it!
- I will make my personal spiritual practice a bigger priority in my life, making sure I add discipline to devotion :-)
- I intend to go on a date with my boyfriend at least once a month. Both of us focusing on our careers should not mean we don't do lovely coupley things anymore!
- I will always take time out to cuddle my cats. No one is too busy for cat cuddles :-)

Ok I think that will do! On top of all the successes I have planned for the year, looks like I have another exciting 12 months on the cards!

Hello all, and happy new year.

So now is a good time to reflect on what has been achieved in 2008 - and it's good to write that down somewhere (or blog it!) so you can see how brilliant the year has been and how proud you should be of yourself :-)

In January 2008 I left my boring office job for good and vowed not to return to a job where I was working for some company doing work I don't enjoy or care about ever again.
I became full time self employed, ignored what everyone said about how long it takes for a business to grow and by March 2008 I was fully booked through the summer, so busy in fact that I was having to turn business away so I had to turn my attention to a plan for expansion far earlier than anticipated.
May 2008 was a major turning point in my life. As well as (finally!!) listening to guidance from spirit and redoing all of my case studies for the shamanic healing I have been doing for the last 4 years, so of course I qualified to practice professionally after all that time of working in private circles, May 2008 was also when I learnt the Reiki Drum technique. It was a brilliant course and a major initiation for me. Energetically life changed and has not been the same, and I received a lot of guidance about how my practice has to evolve.
Throughout the year I began developing new ways of energy healing, or maybe they are old ways?! In any case, I often no longer work in the way that I was taught, instead following guidance and instruction on the astral from spirits and from deities. They have proven to be realy effective and the knowledge has made me a better healer, and given me a great yearning to help other healers move away from using the prescribed methods of healing they have been taught, along with restrictions to their ways of working and they confidence.
I decided at the end of 2007 that I wanted to write more, and I certainly have, with 3 pieces submitted to Pagan Dawn magazine and a piece in the brilliant book Priestesses, Pythonesses and Sybils by Avalonia Books. I also created the beginnings of a couple of books, wrote several newsletters, a retreat, some rituals and devotional offerings, a new course, several workshops, a talk, two websites and probably some other stuff too.
I ran my first healing retreat in August, it was brilliant and I decided that I loved working in that way. It was a far deeper healing experience than anticipated and I loved it!
August was another major month actually, as well as the retreat and turning 29 (the last of the 20s oh my god!) I moved into my first work premises. Since then I have been busy turning it into a beautiful healing space and the vibration there gets higher and higher, better and better, thanks to the work, the clients and the students.
Speaking of students, the amount currently stands at 74 with many more booked for the new year already. 8 of them I have now attuned to Master Teacher level and some of them now have students of their own.
I have set up monthly Reiki shares and have made my regular student development workshops more frequent than they used to be. Now I am watching as a community of healers/colleagues/friends is building.
I passed my driving test in December 2007 and set myself challenges in 2008 to be confident driving on my own. I have driven to all sorts of places this year, by myself and with friends, with the aid of brilliant sat nav! I drove to Essex, to Glastonbury, to Wales, through the city, and also did my first motorway journey (M20 to Kent) by myself.
I prepared and set up my first non-Reiki healing course, called 'Intuitive Healer', which is almost full and launches this month. It is awesome, very personal to me, and I am so excited about it. It is all about giving healers more tools to listen to spirit guidance, create their own personal ways of working and be confident intuitive practitioners.
I did almost all of my prep work for launching my second business, Reiki Retreats, which will officially launch soon (watch this space!). As well as 2 Reiki and Yoga retreats (April and August 2009) I have managed to secure an incredible booking; Frank Arjava Petter is a really well known and well respected Reiki master and he will be facilitating a magnificent retreat on Japanese Reiki Retreats in August.
In December I qualified as a Reiki Drum Master Teacher. There is only one other teacher in the country, and I am the first to be teaching in the London and Kent area. I cannot express how excited I am about teaching the first course at the end of the month!
In 2008 at I completed the 3rd year of a 6 year part time degree programme, and I passed everything with great scores, even biological psychology which is the toughest thing I have ever studied.
I rediscovered my love of positive affirmations and mental reprogramming techniques, and have been working with the Law of Attraction to achieve my goals. Dudes, this stuff really, really, really works. My health, happiness and prosperity continues to grow all the time.
Oh there are so many other things too. I finally read books I have been meaning to read for ages. I did some incredible work with the fae, and took some fairly mindblowing steps on my spiritual and magickal path. I learnt new things about nutrition and what my body needs to be happy. I wrote songs and sang them. I played with my cats. I went on a life coaching course. I gave my first public talk to a bunch of people. I taught more courses this year than I have ever taught before, to amazing students who are gifted. I worked out what I want in my life to make it perfect, and set the wheels in motion to achieve all of those things.
And above all this, while all of that was happening, I lived in a beautiful home that I love, I saw my friends whenever I could and had great fun, I went on holiday and planned new holidays, I saw my relationship with Dave grow in strength, and I cuddled my cats some more. I was happier than I have ever been, and I still am. Life is good!

I loved 2008. Some lovely people sadly departed, and many things were challenging, but I feel positive about everything that happened. 2008 was a year of building foundations, changing ways of thinking and being, learning more fascinating things, being creative, and a year of great happiness. I can't wait to see all the brilliance that 2009 has to offer (but my plans for it should wait for another entry I feel ;-)...)

I hope you all had a great 2008, and I think it is good for everyone to look at and celebrate the positive of the year. If bad stuff happened, do some personal editing and focus on the good. The way you talk about it will influence the way you go into 2009. Tell a good story :-)

Hello all

Well everything has been so busy, but of course there is time between work to mention that the latest and very exciting anthology from Avalonia Books. :-) Priestesses, Pythonesses and Sibyls is available for pre-order now, my copy is winging it's way to me and I can't wait to see it! If you are interested in hearing 'the sacred voices of women who speak with and for the gods' then here is the blurb:

 

( Read more... )I saw parts of the book before it went to print and it looks awesome! Plus, of course, there is a piece written by yours truly  ;-)

In other news, my first Reiki Drum Technique workshop, the first ever in the London area, will be on Jan 31 & Feb 1. There is one place available, watch this space for full details or email me... kay@pureenergyhealing.co.uk

Love to you all!

Hello world

How the devil are you? My posting has been erratic of late - it's because everything has been so exciting with my work recently. I have many new projects in the pipeline at the moment, I've been writing new courses and study material, planning new retreats, getting new qualifications, everything is getting extremely interesting!

I'll be posting here about all my new ventures soon, in the meantime I thought I'd let people know about the residential Yoga retreat & Reiki 1 course I am running 3-5 April 2009 in Kent. This is suitable for absolute beginners in healing, and you'll learn meditations and techniques for self healing, as well as how to give basic treatments to others.

The yoga classes will cover more than just the postures, with meditations & breathwork forming an essential part of the programme. At least 6 months experience in yoga is required as those classes will not be suitable for absolute beginners.

The cost of the retreat is £280 - amazing value as the Reiki 1 course alone is worth £150. The price includes accommodation, all meals & refreshments, course manual and CDs, use of the beautiful priory grounds during our break times, as well as all the Yoga and Reiki classes.

The full retreat programme will consist of:
 

• Asanas
• Pranayama
• Yoga nidra
• Meditation and relaxation skills
• Mudras
• Mandalas
• Permanent connection to the source of Reiki energy
• Reiki meditation techniques
• Learning to feel energy and auras
• Self treatments
• Giving and receiving a full (seated) Reiki treatment
• All Reiki 1 course materials, ceritification and follow on support

Full details can be seen here www.pureenergyhealing.co.uk/reikiretreats.asp

Sometimes the energy pulls you a little further forward than you really feel ready to go, but trusting in the path you have chosen is the only way to deal with that. Although I have been teaching for a while now, I am of course still always learning and always working on myself, and so always changing. This is a great period of change for me, and I am very excited about it! Most of you know that I am now settled in my new healing space; it needs a few more pictures on wall but the energy is good there already and I feel like I will be there for quite some time. I am now offering all the sessions that I previously only offered quietly at home to limited clients and friends - sound healing, drum healing, regression therapy, soul retrieval, cord cutting, working with affirmations and psychic readings. The energy and the universe have made it clear that I must bring all of these things together and offer them all publicly. I am busying away preparing to qualify as the first person in London (only the second in the country I believe) to teach Reiki Drum Technique, and that course will be available early next year. I am also now offering the Reiki Evolution 'Reiki Deepening' course, which is a really beautiful one that I can't wait to start teaching! The first retreat in Kent was also a really wonderful and healing experience. We were a small group, but some very deep energy healing took place that weekend, in gorgeous surroundings and even lovely weather! We enjoyed it so much that I have a meeting early next month to decide dates for the next Reiki & Yoga retreat next summer - I hope to announce the date to you next time. All fantastic, exciting and wonderful new things, all happening in a couple of short months.

Change is a good thing - but it can also be scary. Even though I am excited, I find myself having to consciously remind myself of the precepts for the first time in a very long time: Do not worry. I find myself feeling scared of new things - who knew I was such a stickler for the old routine? I didn't! Even though I want change it means leaving behind a lot of things, like the possibility of ever going back to work for someone else, only being able to teach once a month, insecurities about being successful. Hang on a minute, aren't those the sorts of things I should want to leave behind? Isn't this what all the healing I have been doing was supposed to be releasing? Well, yes, but when it comes right down to it I think all of us are a bit scared of moving on to bigger and better things. (Doesn't bigger mean more responsibility? And how do we know it will really be better?) For me this has manifested as hurdles in my path. Some of you already know that my computer hard drive died a sudden death, taking all of my work with it. I have also had problems being online, problems making appointments, had people cancelling on me, or I've had to cancel on them. Add to that a lovely dose of flu and I was wondering what on earth was going on here!!

Rather than feel put out by it all, I thought I would share with you what I have learnt from the last couple of months, or rather what I have been reminded of. Reiki brings about such changes in people's lives, and I am sure everyone can feel a bit overwhelmed by them sometimes. The answer, I think, is more Reiki, more meditations. More positive affirmations, more taking care of yourself first and foremost. Gyo Hage Me - Do Your Work! Keep going. Stay focused on what you need to do and what you are going to achieve. And Ikaruna  - Don't Worry. Reiki supports change, because it is a flowing energy, and we are all connected to the source of that energy. It flows through us all the time, supporting us in each moment and helping us to continue on the healing path. All we have to do is walk it.   

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This is an article from my most recent Reiki newsletter, and one of my students came back with such a wonderful comment:

"You are wonderful person and the changes you are facing so bravely will be worth it in the end.  When we make one step forward on our path, God makes two for us." What a lovely thing to say :)

Oh hurrah! Like water, we have found our way around and over all obstacles. Not only do I have a new hard drive, and not only have I written much wonderful new material, but I finally have a shiny new website!!
No doubt I will be altering the content a lot over the coming weeks, and many pictures which were lost will now have to be replace with brand new ones, so I can have pictures on every page. Despite the changes I already know I will make later, I am so incredibly pleased with the new site. If anyone remembers the old one you will see that this is far superior, has so much more information. It's a much bigger, more complex site and so an absolute triumph for my beloved little brother who has worked many, many hours on his days off and in the dead of night building this fantastic site for me. Presents are in order, methinks.

You can check it out here: www.pureenergyhealing.co.uk  

So.....some of you may be aware that I have been without my laptop for 2 weeks - eek! My hard drive died, and I have learnt a very valuable lesson in backing up! I am gradually getting things back together, but if you've been waiting for anything from me and haven't received it, that's why. Just nudge me by email :)

Today I have it back and working, (my many thanks to Dave, my bro, the ebay man and the pc world dudes). It will be a while before everything is running completely smoothly again, but I am on the way and feeling good. I have spent quite a bit of time today researching one of my recent interests (I guess I should be flat out working, but who wants to live that way?!): Raw food.

I first heard any real information about raw food when I met a raw foodie on a retreat 2 years ago. She had loads of food with her, and let me try lots of exciting things, and really raved about the lifestyle (although she was not 100% raw). Prior to meeting her, I had only heard of raw food in passing. I think I thought it was a fad diet, new age nonsense, extreme eating for the weird. I never considered the benefits of eating live, raw food compared to dead, processed food (should be obvious to an energy worker, but hey!). Then earlier this year I met a raw vegan who is very into nutrition for healing, juice fasting that sort of thing, and I think that is what really got me interested, so I did some googling. Since then I've been dabbling, and I feel much more energised when eating lots of raw foods. I've noticed that I can feel a difference that same day, and I wake up the next day feeling like I have slept differently. And when I eat processed or sugary, refined food, I feel, well, crappy. I can feel the raw food releasing old, negative energies, and I am intrigued by what a healing experienced going raw would be.

I am quite open and light in my energies as a rule, and particularly now I do so much energy work, I think a world without grounding carbs is not a world for me to live in. But I have discovered that even being partially raw can be beneficial. Especially since when dabbling I have discovered that my body usually doesn't want any bad food if I start the day eating well, so the cooked food will usually be healthy anyway. (I have also discovered that if I start the day with toast or cereal and then have a raw lunch, I don't feel nearly as much benefit to my energy levels as I do when I have fresh fruit for brekkie and then a cooked lunch.) So, today I did the most researching I've done so far, and I found a good starter plan from the Raw Food Coach and tomorrow I will get going on it.

For those friends of mine who are knowledgeable about such things, comments are welcome :) If there are any interesting results, I will let you know about them!

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 Today is my last day working at the therapy centre in Battersea, where I have loved working and, if I weren't so excited to have my own premises, I'd be sad to be leaving. The owner and her family are lovely, and it seems that only good people who are great therapists work there. It's the nicest place I've ever worked and if any of you are near that neck of the woods and need healing / massage / osteopathy / acupuncture / counselling or any other fab stuff they offer, you should check out Lavender Heal. It is just a much nicer centre than any of those big places in Clapham, with a lovely family feel to the place. There will still be Reiki there, courtesy of Catherine Birkinhead - one of my Reiki Master students who is just brilliant.

Next Saturday, and then again on 6th Sep, I have my final courses in Clapham SW4. Happily, the office manager has agreed to let me move in to my office early, so I'll be in there on Monday (which means carting my tables back and forth from office to course, course to office, office to retreat, retreat to office, office to course, course to office - and then rest! I can leave them where they are finally!). 

I'm very excited about all these developments! I already have clients and students booking up for my Beckenham space and I feel really positive about the move. I'm looking forward to getting in and hanging my Reiki pictures, getting everything as I want it, and getting the energy flowing. Will post pics once I'm settled in :)